Triangulation in Relationships: What It Means, Examples, and Limits of the Term
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Triangulation in relationships describes a three-person relational process in which tension, conflict, loyalty, information, or influence that might otherwise remain between two people is routed through a third person. In family therapy, the American Psychological Association defines triangulation as a situation in which two family members in conflict each try to draw another member to their side, such as parents pulling a child into the middle of their conflict. APA Dictionary of Psychology uses the term in this family-therapy sense.
The term is also used much more broadly online. In popular relationship language, “triangulation” may refer to bringing in an ex, friend, relative, coworker, admirer, or even an implied audience such as “everyone agrees with me” to create leverage, jealousy, pressure, distance, or uncertainty. Some of those patterns can be manipulative. Yet the scientific literature is considerably more developed for family-system triangles—especially children feeling caught between parents—than for a single standardized construct called “romantic triangulation.” That difference in evidence matters.
Triangulation is therefore best treated as a description of relationship structure and communication, not as a diagnosis or a personality label. It may be intentional or unintentional, brief or chronic, benign or harmful. A third person’s involvement is not enough by itself to establish manipulation, abuse, narcissistic personality disorder, or any other clinical condition. The useful question is what function the third point of the triangle is serving, how often the pattern occurs, and what it does to direct communication, autonomy, trust, and safety.
What Does Triangulation Mean in a Relationship?
The simplest form is A–B tension being managed through C. Person A has a problem with Person B, but instead of keeping the problem within the A–B relationship, A recruits, consults, pressures, compares, communicates through, or forms an alliance with Person C. B may do the same. C can then become an ally, messenger, judge, rival, confidant, buffer, scapegoat, or target of competing loyalties.
This three-person structure is well established in systemic family thinking. Dallos and Vetere describe the triangle as a basic unit in systemic theory: interactions between two people are influenced by each person’s relationship with the same third person. Their review treats triangulation as a family process rather than automatically as deliberate manipulation. Dallos and Vetere (2012)
That broader systemic meaning is important because relationship triangles are not inherently pathological. Human relationships exist in networks. Partners have friends, children have two parents, coworkers have teams, and family members have multiple loyalties. A third person can help reduce escalation, provide support, mediate a dispute, or add perspective. The pattern becomes more concerning when the third party is repeatedly used to avoid direct resolution, force allegiance, control information, intensify rivalry, punish someone, or change the balance of power.
The Scientific Core of the Concept: Being “Caught in the Middle”
The clearest empirical literature on triangulation concerns children drawn into interparental conflict. Researchers often operationalize this as parent–child triangulation or a child “feeling caught” between parents. The child may feel pressure to choose sides, carry messages, protect one parent from the other, conceal information, defend a parent, or manage emotions that belong to the adult relationship.
A 2026 meta-analysis synthesized 49 studies involving 23,336 participants and found a reliable association between interparental conflict and children feeling caught between parents. Schrodt (2026) describes “feeling caught” as parent–child triangulation and shows that this is not merely an anecdotal family-therapy idea; it is a measurable relational phenomenon studied across a substantial evidence base.
Research also links this kind of triangulation with child and adolescent adjustment. A second 2026 meta-analysis of 54 studies and 25,582 participants found positive associations between feeling caught and both internalizing symptoms, such as anxiety or depressive distress, and externalizing behavior problems. The pooled associations were r = .241 for internalizing symptoms and r = .193 for externalizing problems. Schrodt (2026) also reported considerable heterogeneity, meaning the size of the association varies across studies and contexts.
Relationship quality is implicated as well. A meta-analysis of 26 studies with 8,061 participants found a small but meaningful inverse association between children feeling caught and parent–child relationship quality, r = −.218. Schrodt (2026) again found heterogeneity, so this average should not be read as a prediction about any individual family.
Longitudinal and process-oriented studies add detail. In a four-wave study of 416 families, adolescents’ triangulation into parents’ marital conflict was associated with increases in internalizing problems, with emotional reactivity forming part of the pathway. Buehler and Welsh (2009) followed adolescents across ages 11 to 15 rather than relying on a single cross-sectional snapshot. In another study involving 150 children ages 8 to 12 and their parents, triangulation was one of several distinct processes connecting interparental conflict with adjustment, and it uniquely predicted externalizing problems in the tested model. Fosco and Grych (2008)
These findings support a specific conclusion: repeatedly placing a child in the middle of adult conflict is a meaningful family-process risk. They do not justify extending every result to adult romantic triangles, friendships, workplace conflict, or “narcissistic triangulation” without qualification.
How Triangulation Can Work
A triangle can change a relationship even when nobody explicitly says, “Take my side.” It changes who holds information, who has access to whom, where tension is discharged, and whose approval becomes consequential.
One common mechanism is alliance formation. A person may recruit a third party to confirm that their interpretation is correct. This can transform a two-person disagreement into a two-against-one configuration. The practical effect may be social pressure rather than better understanding.
A second mechanism is indirect communication. Instead of telling B what they want B to know, A tells C and expects C to carry the message. This can reduce immediate discomfort for A while increasing distortion, uncertainty, and responsibility for C.
A third mechanism is comparison. A partner may invoke a former partner, admirer, friend, sibling, or colleague as a standard against which the other person is judged. Comparison alone is not automatically triangulation. It becomes more triangle-like when the third person is used repeatedly as leverage inside the primary relationship—for example, to provoke competition for approval or threaten replaceability.
A fourth mechanism is controlled access to information. If A separately tells B and C different versions of the same conflict, A can become the only bridge between them. That structure can make direct verification harder. This is especially important when the triangle depends on secrecy, selective disclosure, or claims about what an absent person supposedly thinks.
A fifth mechanism is tension displacement. Two people may temporarily stabilize their own relationship by focusing anxiety or blame on a third person. Family-systems approaches have long been interested in how a triangle can absorb tension that a pair is struggling to manage directly. That does not require a calculating motive; it can become a habitual relational solution precisely because it reduces immediate tension for the original pair.
Signs a Triangulation Pattern May Be Operating
A recurring triangle often leaves recognizable process clues. You may hear important relationship information secondhand more often than directly. You may be asked to confirm that one person is right about another, or find that your opinion is being quoted back into a conflict you did not agree to join. You may discover that different people were given incompatible versions of the same event, while direct conversation between them is discouraged.
Another clue is recurring pressure to compete with an absent third person. An ex, sibling, friend, coworker, admirer, therapist, or relative becomes the comparison standard whose approval seems to decide whether your needs are reasonable. The relevant question is not whether a third person exists, but whether that relationship is being used to create leverage in yours.
A person who is repeatedly placed in the middle may also notice role strain: they are expected to carry messages, soothe both sides, keep secrets, report information, choose loyalties, or prevent the original pair from confronting their disagreement. In families, the “caught in the middle” experience is precisely the form of triangulation most directly supported by research.
These clues are not a validated diagnostic checklist. They describe a pattern to investigate. A single episode of venting, asking for advice, or bringing in a neutral helper does not establish harmful triangulation.
Examples of Triangulation in Relationships
Consider a romantic couple after an argument. One partner tells a mutual friend a selective version of the dispute and asks the friend to call the other partner and “explain why you’re wrong.” If the friend becomes an advocate rather than a neutral source of support, the original disagreement has been reorganized into a triangle.
In another relationship, a partner repeatedly says, “My ex never had a problem with this,” whenever the current partner raises a need. Mentioning an ex is not automatically manipulative. But repeatedly installing the ex as an idealized comparison point can create a competitive triangle in which approval seems to depend on outperforming an absent rival.
An implied third party can sometimes play a similar role. “Everybody thinks you’re unreasonable” or “all my friends agree that you’re the problem” invokes a coalition even if those people are not present. The claim may be true, exaggerated, selective, or fabricated. The triangulating feature is the use of an outside alliance to alter pressure inside the dyad. If the same statement is also used to make someone systematically distrust their own memory or perception, gaslighting may be present too, but the two concepts still describe different processes.
In friendships, one friend may complain about a second friend to a third and then ask the third to deliver criticism, withdraw invitations, or choose sides. Groups naturally discuss one another, so not every conversation about an absent friend is triangulation. The pattern becomes more consequential when indirect alliances replace direct problem-solving and membership in the group is used as leverage.
At work, a person may tell one colleague that another coworker “has a problem with you” while discouraging the two from speaking directly. This can create suspicion and make the intermediary unusually powerful. Workplace disputes also have legitimate reasons for third-party involvement—management, human resources, a union representative, a mediator, or a formal complaint process—so context matters.
On social media, a triangle may form when relationship conflict is moved into public or semi-public spaces to recruit validation, provoke jealousy, or pressure someone through an audience. Posting about a relationship is not inherently triangulation. The defining question is whether the audience or another person is being used as an active third point in the original relational tension.
The most evidence-backed example is parental conflict. A parent may ask a child to report what the other parent said, seek reassurance that the child agrees with them, criticize the other parent in a way that demands loyalty, or use the child to carry messages. Here the third person has less relational power and may experience a loyalty conflict between two caregivers. This is why “being caught between parents” has become a major empirical operationalization of triangulation.
When Is Triangulation Manipulative?
Triangulation becomes psychologically manipulative when a third relationship is used instrumentally to influence another person in ways that reduce transparent, direct choice. Common functions can include creating social pressure, provoking jealousy, manufacturing competition, obscuring the source of a message, threatening exclusion, isolating someone from an ally, or making one person dependent on the triangulator for information.
No single sign proves manipulation. A useful assessment looks at pattern and function: Is third-party involvement repeated? Is information selectively controlled? Are people discouraged from checking claims directly? Is the third person pressured to take sides? Does the triangle create fear of replacement, exclusion, or retaliation? Does the original issue become harder to discuss because the relationship now depends on outside approval?
These questions are descriptive rather than diagnostic. They help identify how a relationship is operating without claiming certainty about motive or personality.
Can Triangulation Be Unintentional?
Yes. A person may triangulate because direct conflict feels uncomfortable, because indirect communication is normal in their family or social environment, because they are seeking emotional regulation, or because they have learned to recruit allies whenever tension rises. Systemic theories are especially useful here because they focus on recurring interaction patterns rather than assuming a single hidden motive.
Intent still matters morally and practically, but it is not always observable. The same outward behavior can arise from different reasons. Someone who asks a friend to sit in on a difficult conversation may be seeking safety or clarity; someone else may bring a friend in to outnumber a partner. A child who carries messages between separated parents may be trying to keep peace rather than deliberately manipulating anyone. Calling all of these situations “manipulation” would erase meaningful differences.
The better distinction is between the structure of a triangle and the function it serves. A triangle can exist without malicious intent. Manipulative triangulation is a narrower case in which the third point is used to gain leverage, control, or compliance.
What Triangulation Is Not
Triangulation is not simply talking to someone about a relationship. People need outside support. Telling a trusted friend, therapist, clergy member, advocate, or family member what happened can help someone process emotion, reality-check a situation, and decide what to do. Healthy support does not require the supporter to become a weapon inside the original relationship.
It is also not the same as mediation. A mediator is explicitly invited to help two or more people communicate or negotiate. The role is transparent. A mediator’s value usually depends on maintaining process fairness rather than forming a covert alliance.
Triangulation is not ordinary disagreement. Two people can remember an event differently, interpret motives differently, or disagree strongly without recruiting a third person or manipulating anyone. Conflict is a universal feature of relationships. A 2026 systematic research synthesis of 23 studies on constructive interparental conflict found that constructive conflict can coexist with more adaptive child outcomes, while also emphasizing that this literature remains methodologically limited. Zhang and Wu (2026) The presence of conflict alone therefore tells us little about whether a triangle is harmful.
Triangulation is not a clinical diagnosis. It is a relational concept. There is no DSM diagnosis called “triangulation,” and observing a triangular interaction does not diagnose a personality disorder, trauma disorder, attachment disorder, or any other mental condition.
Triangulation vs. a Love Triangle or the Drama Triangle
A love triangle simply describes a situation in which three people are connected by competing or overlapping romantic interests. It can become a vehicle for triangulation if one relationship is deliberately used to pressure another, but romantic geometry alone does not establish manipulation.
The Karpman Drama Triangle is another different concept. Stephen Karpman’s transactional-analysis model describes shifts among three interaction roles often labeled Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer. It is a role model of conflict dynamics, not the same construct as family-systems triangulation. The shared word “triangle” is visual; the theories are not interchangeable.
Triangulation vs. Gaslighting
Gaslighting and triangulation can occur together, but they refer to different things. Triangulation describes the introduction or use of a third relational point in managing a dyadic tension. Gaslighting describes a pattern of psychological manipulation that undermines confidence in one’s perception, memory, judgment, or grasp of reality.
A sentence such as “Everyone remembers it the way I do, so you must be imagining things” could potentially contain both processes: an implied coalition is introduced, and that coalition is used to attack the other person’s confidence in their own perception. By contrast, “My sister agrees that we should move” may be pressure through an alliance without any attempt to make someone doubt reality. And a person can gaslight another person without involving a third party at all.
Keeping the concepts separate prevents the word gaslighting from becoming a catch-all label for every painful relationship behavior.
Triangulation vs. Emotional Manipulation and Psychological Manipulation
Psychological manipulation is a broad category of influence that can involve deception, pressure, strategic emotional cues, information control, or exploitation of vulnerabilities. Emotional manipulation is often used more narrowly for influence that operates through emotions such as guilt, fear, jealousy, shame, obligation, or insecurity.
Triangulation may function as one tactic within those broader categories when the third person is deliberately used to change another person’s behavior or emotional position. But family-systems research also studies triangulation that is habitual, reciprocal, or emergent rather than strategically manipulative. That is why “triangulation” and “manipulation” should not be treated as interchangeable terms.
Triangulation vs. Projection, Blame Shifting, Guilt Tripping, DARVO, Love Bombing, and Silent Treatment
Projection involves attributing one’s own feelings, motives, or characteristics to someone else. Blame shifting redirects responsibility away from oneself. Guilt tripping attempts to influence someone through guilt or obligation. DARVO—deny, attack, and reverse victim and offender—describes a response pattern to being confronted or held accountable. Love bombing refers in popular and clinical-adjacent language to unusually intense attention, affection, praise, or promises that may become part of a controlling relational pattern. Silent treatment concerns withholding relational communication. None of these processes requires a third person, so none is synonymous with triangulation.
They can overlap. A person might blame-shift by claiming that a mutual friend says the other person caused the conflict, or use a new admirer to intensify jealousy while alternating idealization and withdrawal. The overlap does not merge the constructs. Naming the specific process is more informative than stacking multiple labels onto the same episode.
Triangulation vs. Coercive Control and Abuse
Coercive control is broader than triangulation. In an abusive relationship, third parties may be used to monitor someone, isolate them, spread threats, control reputation, interfere with support, or create fear of social consequences. In that context, triangulation can be one part of a larger pattern of domination.
Public-health definitions focus on the broader behavior pattern rather than on the word triangulation. The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention defines psychological aggression in intimate partner violence as verbal or nonverbal communication used with the intent to harm a partner mentally or emotionally or exert control. CDC The World Health Organization likewise includes psychological abuse and controlling behaviors within intimate partner violence. WHO
A triangular interaction by itself therefore does not establish abuse. The assessment changes when the pattern includes fear, surveillance, threats, isolation, retaliation, forced dependence, or other controlling behaviors. In such situations, “communicate more directly” is not a sufficient safety plan and can sometimes increase risk.
What About “Narcissistic Triangulation”?
“Narcissistic triangulation” is a prominent search term and a common phrase in popular psychology. It usually describes a person introducing another person—an ex, admirer, friend, sibling, coworker, or audience—to generate rivalry, validation, jealousy, status, or control.
The phrase should not be used as a shortcut to diagnose narcissistic personality disorder. NPD is a clinical diagnosis defined by a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, and lack of empathy beginning by early adulthood and occurring across contexts. The American Psychiatric Association emphasizes that narcissistic traits are not the same thing as narcissistic personality disorder. American Psychiatric Association
The strongest triangulation evidence does not show that triangulation uniquely identifies NPD, nor that everyone with NPD uses the same relational tactics. A more accurate description is behavioral: “This person repeatedly brings third parties into conflict to create competition or pressure.” That statement can be evaluated from observable interaction without turning the behavior into a remote personality diagnosis.
What Research Actually Supports—and What It Does Not
The evidence supports triangulation as an established family-systems and family-communication concept. It also supports “feeling caught between parents” as a measurable form of parent–child triangulation associated, on average, with interparental conflict, poorer parent–child relationship quality, and child adjustment difficulties. Recent meta-analyses substantially strengthen the quantitative foundation for those claims.
Evidence also suggests that communication quality around the triangle matters. A 2026 meta-analysis of 38 studies involving 19,123 participants found a moderate positive association between antisocial parent–child communication and children feeling caught, and a smaller negative association between prosocial parent–child communication and feeling caught. Schrodt (2026) This reinforces the idea that triangulation is partly a communication process, not merely a personality characteristic.
At the same time, several limits are crucial. Much of the strongest research focuses on families with children and interparental conflict. “Triangulation in romantic relationships” is not one universally standardized adult construct measured the same way across studies. Popular examples involving jealousy, ex-partners, social media, or narcissistic manipulation often extrapolate from systemic concepts, clinical observations, and broader manipulation research rather than from a large dedicated meta-analytic literature on that exact search-language construct.
Causality also requires care. Many studies are correlational, even when associations are consistent. Longitudinal research improves temporal inference but still does not turn a relational pattern into a single-cause explanation. Family outcomes are shaped by conflict intensity, communication, socioeconomic stress, developmental stage, prior vulnerabilities, support, and many other factors.
Finally, the same relational geometry can have different meanings. A third person can be a recruited ally, a neutral mediator, a therapist, a safety advocate, or simply a friend who listens. Research on harmful triangulation cannot be responsibly translated into “third parties are bad for relationships.”
Why Triangulation Can Feel So Destabilizing
A recurring triangle can make the original relationship harder to read. Instead of asking, “What do you think?” a person may have to ask, “What did they tell you that she thinks?” Information becomes indirect, and each relationship starts influencing the others.
This can create uncertainty about loyalties. If approval depends on beating an ex, pleasing a parent, satisfying a friend group, or keeping an intermediary on one’s side, attention shifts from the original issue to social positioning. The person under pressure may spend more energy monitoring alliances than discussing the problem itself.
Triangulation can also diffuse accountability. A person can present a claim as coming from “everyone,” “my family,” or “our friends” rather than owning it. The absence of a clear source makes the claim harder to examine. In some relationships, this ambiguity is the point: the recipient feels surrounded without knowing who actually said what.
For children, the destabilization has an additional developmental dimension. A child depends on caregivers and cannot simply exit the family system. Being asked to choose, carry adult messages, manage a parent’s distress, or conceal loyalties can place responsibilities on the child that exceed an appropriate role. This is the form of triangulation for which the empirical risk evidence is strongest.
How to Respond to Triangulation
Start with the observable process rather than a label. “You asked Sam to tell me what you wanted instead of telling me directly” is more precise than “You’re a narcissistic triangulator.” Precision gives you something concrete to evaluate and, when the relationship is safe enough for dialogue, something concrete to change.
When possible and safe, return communication to the people who actually own the issue. If two adults disagree, the relevant conversation usually belongs between those adults. A third person can offer support without becoming the messenger, jury, or enforcement mechanism.
Verify claims directly when doing so is appropriate. If someone says, “Your sister agrees you’re impossible,” you do not have to accept the coalition as established fact. Direct verification can reduce the power of selective retelling. There are exceptions: contacting a third party may be unsafe, intrusive, professionally inappropriate, or exactly what a controlling person wants you to do. Context governs the choice.
Use process boundaries rather than trying to control another person’s relationships. Examples include declining to carry messages, refusing to judge a dispute you did not witness, asking someone to speak directly to the person involved, or declining to compete with an ex or friend for basic respect. A boundary describes what you will participate in; it does not guarantee that another person will stop using the pattern.
If children are involved, keep adult relationship conflict with adults. Children should not be asked to collect information, deliver hostile messages, decide which parent is right, comfort a parent at the expense of their own emotional needs, or demonstrate loyalty by rejecting the other parent. The evidence on children feeling caught gives this recommendation unusually strong support.
If the triangle is embedded in intimidation, stalking, coercive control, threats, violence, or retaliation, prioritize safety over direct confrontation. Individual support, a domestic-violence service, a licensed clinician familiar with abuse dynamics, legal advice where relevant, or another locally appropriate safety resource may be more useful than a joint communication exercise. Couples or family work is not automatically the right setting when one person is afraid of consequences for speaking openly.
If You Are the Third Person in the Triangle
Being recruited into someone else’s conflict can feel flattering, urgent, or morally clear, especially when you care about one of the people involved. It can also leave you carrying information and responsibility that do not belong to you.
You can support someone without becoming their proxy. Listening, helping them think, and encouraging an appropriate direct conversation are different from transmitting accusations, gathering intelligence, threatening the other person, or deciding the dispute on incomplete information.
If you have an independent relationship with both people, protect it. Do not assume that confidentiality to one person requires deception toward the other, and do not promise to carry messages you do not want to carry. If the situation concerns safety or abuse, ordinary neutrality may be inappropriate; support can include helping someone access qualified services rather than mediating the relationship yourself.
When Professional Help Can Be Useful
Professional help can be useful when triangulation is chronic, when the same conflict repeatedly recruits relatives or friends, when children feel caught between caregivers, or when direct communication consistently collapses into alliances and counter-alliances.
A couples or family therapist can help map interaction patterns and clarify roles when the setting is appropriate and participants can speak without fear of retaliation. Individual therapy can help someone understand why they repeatedly become a mediator, rescuer, rival, or alliance-seeker and practice more direct ways of managing tension.
Where coercive control or violence is present, safety assessment comes first. A professional trained in intimate partner violence can help distinguish relationship conflict from patterns of intimidation and control and can support safety planning that does not depend on persuading the controlling person to communicate differently.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is triangulation always manipulation?
No. Triangulation is a relational pattern involving a third point in a two-person tension. It can be strategic and manipulative, but it can also be habitual, reciprocal, anxious, protective, or unintentional. Manipulative triangulation is the subset in which the third party is used to gain leverage, pressure, control, or compliance.
Is triangulation emotional abuse?
Triangulation can occur within emotionally abusive or coercively controlling relationships, but the presence of a triangle alone does not establish abuse. Abuse assessment depends on the broader pattern: fear, degradation, threats, isolation, surveillance, retaliation, coercion, and control matter. Public-health definitions of intimate partner violence focus on those wider patterns rather than on triangulation as a standalone category.
Is triangulation a sign of narcissism?
It can appear in discussions of narcissistic traits and NPD, but triangulation does not diagnose narcissistic personality disorder. NPD requires a pervasive clinical pattern assessed across contexts. Behavioral description is more accurate than inferring a diagnosis from one relationship tactic.
Is talking to a friend about my partner triangulation?
Not automatically. Seeking support, perspective, or help is a normal part of social life. It becomes more like problematic triangulation when the friend is recruited to pressure the partner, carry messages, create jealousy, take sides as leverage, control information, or replace direct communication repeatedly.
Can triangulation involve an ex?
Yes, in the broader relationship-language use of the term. An ex can become a third point if they are repeatedly invoked or involved to create competition, comparison, jealousy, or leverage. Simply mentioning an ex or maintaining an appropriate relationship with an ex is not enough.
Can a therapist or mediator be part of a triangle?
Structurally, any third person can affect a two-person relationship. The crucial difference is role and transparency. A competent therapist or mediator is engaged openly to help the people understand patterns, communicate, or negotiate; they are not covertly recruited as an ally to defeat one side. In family-systems work, therapists may explicitly observe and work with triangles without treating all third-party involvement as harmful.
Is triangulation the same as gaslighting?
No. Triangulation involves a third relational point; gaslighting involves undermining someone’s confidence in perception, memory, judgment, or reality. They can co-occur, but either can occur without the other.
What is the best way to stop triangulation?
When the situation is safe, stop performing the role that keeps the triangle functioning: do not carry messages, do not compete for approval, do not adjudicate disputes you do not own, and bring relevant communication back to the people directly involved. If the pattern includes coercion, threats, stalking, violence, or fear of retaliation, use safety-oriented support rather than relying on direct-conversation techniques.
What does triangulation look like between parents and children?
A child may be asked to choose sides, report on the other parent, deliver messages, keep secrets, comfort a distressed parent, or validate one parent’s view of the other. Research often captures the child’s experience as “feeling caught.” This parent–child form has a much stronger direct empirical literature than many popular adult-romantic uses of the term.
Can triangulation happen without a real third person being present?
In broad popular usage, yes. Statements such as “everyone agrees with me” can invoke an implied coalition and create social pressure. Scientific family-systems research more often studies actual relational triangles, so it is useful to identify “implied third party” as an extension of the concept rather than pretending every literature uses exactly the same definition.
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